Friday, January 15, 2010

Evolving and Conforming

house husband The other night I was busy working on a project so Linda offered to make dinner for us. It was a surprising offer because, over the last four years, I could count on one hand the number of times she has cooked. Since I stay home, it has become my responsibility to do the cooking and I take great pride in having a warm, tasty meal on the table when she gets home from work.

I found myself having mixed feelings about her offer. Part of me was glad that she was allowing me to continue working on the project (it was work related, not something I was just puttering around with). However, the other part of me was resentful that she was messing around in MY KITCHEN! That was short-lived when, within five minutes of her starting dinner, she was asking me where I kept various things: mixing bowl, measuring cups, the stove.

Linda acted quite proud of her accomplishment when I sat down to dinner. It has been a long time since we have had mac and cheese as a main course, but I domestic divacomplimented and thanked her for her efforts.

It’s little things like this that reinforce the roles we have taken, that show us how much we take for granite. I am happy and proud to be the housewife, cook, maid, and submissive partner to Linda. I am glad I am able to do these things for her, and for us. We have become better people because we have found our proper roles and purpose of life. It may not be right for anyone else, but it works for us.


Anonymous said...

In my small way I also feel uneasy when my Wife is taking over my 'duties'.
We don't live in a recognized female led relationship, but gradually She leaves some chores to me, like shopping, washing the dishes, sometimes cooking and of course all administrative tasks.

Thank you for sharing your life.


Liz Romney said...

I look forward to finding out what 2010 holds for Linda and Beverly! Especially you Beverly... but Linda too ;-)

BTW I think the phrase is "take for granted" not "take for granite".... FWIW :-}


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