Tuesday, December 15, 2009

How Things Have Changed

Linda and I used to spice up our love life with fantasy games. We would take turns tying each other up, using blindfolds to heighten the senses, maybe even incorporate a little spanking or nipple play just to make things more interesting and exciting. But that has now changed.

blindfolded1Recently, when we had an evening home without anything vying for our time, I brought out ‘the toy box’ that we keep hidden away for special playtimes. I thought I would surprise Linda by tied to chairblindfolding her, tie her erotically to the bed, and tease her for hours. I had spent some time during  the day planning on when and what I would do once I had her restrained.

I approached her with the blindfold in hand, asking if she would like to have a little fun. The look that came across her face stopped me dead in my tracks.

taking her“That would mean that I would have to be submissive to you while you dominated me,” she said slowly. “I’m sorry, Honey, but I just don’t see you that  way anymore. I’m afraid that I cannot get into you trying to dominate me any more then I could see Darryl putting on a dress and lingerie. It’s just not going to happen.”

I was totally surprised and humiliated. So much had changed over the last couple of years, our roles have been so firmly defined, she no longer would allow me to try to go back to being the man she married. Never would I have thought this chosen path would turn out to be one with no return available.

I am not sure if this is permanent or not, but for the foreseeable time it appears that I will remain the submissive one. I guess I am okay with that.


Marian said...

Bev -

Then you'll have to get your spouse to start tying you up again.... It looks like she sees you more of a woman now.

You may want to suggest that she start doing you with a strap on. Maybe that will help her feel dominant enough to start playing with you again. It may not be the way you'd have liked, but....


alan said...

A bit like Pandora's box I suppose, once opened...

Sorry for the ache in your heart at this!


wade555 said...

Hi Bev

Very nice blog. I have been "dressing" for 25 years but have never been "out" to my wife.
I can't even get her to be the dominate one in our marriage. I have to admit that I have always put her first and I guess, as a result, she says hey...everythings ok the way it is.

You blog is tremendous. I just discovered it a few days ago and I have back and read each and every word.Your friend from Florida is quite a dominant. I am quite a "sissy sub" but it would have been hard to have your wife doing what she was doing. very, very proud of you.