Like many of you, I was concerned at the direction our relationship seemed to be taking. I have always enjoyed my cross-dressing, especially when Linda got involved with it. However, I had felt that it should be private and kept to just the two of us. I wasn’t too upset when Linda told one or two of her friends about it as I knew she needed an outlet to talk about her feelings. Plus, it was kind of fun being dressed up in front of supportive women. But then their husbands found out and suddenly my secret was no longer secret. When my mother and sister found out about
Linda and I sat down over several days to discuss my concerns. We shared what we were feeling and where we thought this was going. I enjoy my role as her wife and my responsibilities of housework, cooking, and laundry, and I don’t want that to end. Working out the home affords me the opportunity to indulge my role-playing and still earn a living. Linda loves the release from typical “wifely duties” and being able to come home from work to a clean house and a hot meal. Neither of us want to lose that.
My main concerns were how to control who finds out about my crossdressing, if it is even possible to control that any more, and where our love life was headed. I enjoy sex with Linda too much to give that up. I am willing to put up with her having occasional sexual relationships, like with Darryl, since I enjoy the cuckold fantasy. I do not want her to replace our sexual relationship with one where she is exclusive to someone else. Fortunately, Linda agrees with me and said that she has missed our intimacy as much as I have and wants to get that corrected. She enjoyed denying me because she could tell that I was enjoying the fantasy as well.
Linda confessed that she enjoyed sex with Darryl and the dates they had, but she doesn’t want him to replace me. We both agreed that the two of them going on dates when he is here would be fine. I expressed my concern about others finding out about those dates and how it could cause problems for us. Our solution is for those dates to be kept to our house as much as possible. Linda got me to agree that she and Darryl could meet sometime some place away from here where there would be little chance of running into someone we know. She mentioned the
Linda also agreed to talk to Darryl and to try to reel him and his ideas in. He had been talking to her about him taking more control over our lives. He wanted her to be exclusive to him sexually, to the point of cutting me off sexually from her. She is going to tell him that is not possible or of interest to her. Linda is going to tell him that our marriage comes first and that their relationship must take a backseat to it. Not sure how he will react to that.
I asked her about Darryl’s idea of her getting a tattoo for him. She told me that a part of her thought it was a hot idea and that it might be fun, if it was placed somewhere where it wouldn’t show. But that is also going to be put on hold for the time being. However, she suggested that I/Beverly might enjoy getting a ‘cute little tattoo’ as well. Not sure about that.
Then we talked about Darryl’s idea of me dating men. Linda still thinks it might be good for my ‘feminine development’ to experience being intimate with a man. She commented on how much I grew from my experience with Roger while in
She asked me if I wanted to go back to
That left us with talking about where we want to be as a couple. We talked about re-building our marriage to get it strong again. We shared what we enjoyed which included me serving her many ways; from giving her personal services like manicures and pedicures, to letting her take the dominate role sexually as well as more in our everyday lives. She enjoys spanking me but doesn’t want me to spank her as she doesn’t see me in that kind of a dominate role with her. Since our friends and family knows about our wife-led marriage she doesn’t see any reason to change that, just as she sees no reason to hid
So there you have it. Your input has been useful and taken to heart. Thanks for helping out!