Thursday, January 31, 2008

Your input please.

I am in a dilemma and hope someone can help me. Though I have been taking care of the household for the past three years, I don’t know what I should be doing to make this lifestyle more enjoyable for my wife. She is free from the burden of cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, picking up dry cleaning, grocery shopping, and even yard work and car care. I know that she appreciates what I do and knows why I do it – because I love being a housewife. However, I want to do more for her, to really show her how much I love her and love being her wife.

I have read on similar sites that one of the pitfalls of this lifestyle is someone like me wanting to flaunt this in front of the spouse’s face constantly because we are so engrossed in it. I don’t want this to be something she dreads because I talk about it too much. But it is constantly on my mind because I am constantly living it. She isn’t living it because she leaves the house for her work everyday. She only has to face the lifestyle when she returns home for those few hours each evening. After supper is done and cleaned up, we spend the evening hours as a normal married couple; watching TV, reading, spending time on the computer, and having mundane conversations about family, politics, or weather.

Of course I want to talk about my little world and still be the homemaker even while just sitting on the sofa. I want her to see me still in my housewife role. She isn’t a dominating person so I don’t envision her ordering me around. So what can I do to continue this without fear of alienating her?

I enjoy my life and want to continue and expand it. At times I see signs that she might be willing to expand this to include others like when we had dinner with Darryl. And I know she talks to Anna about it. Maybe I should have her invite Anna over for dinner. I could leave it up to her as to how much we show Anna – if I just cook and serve or if I do it in full Beverly role.

This is where I need your help and input. What do you suggest? What has worked for you or failed? Do you let other people into your world or just keep it between the two of you?

Let me hear from you.

5 comments:

suzys Mistress said...

suzy has been intstructed to comment xxxx

slut suzy said...

if it were me i'd start by talking to Your Wife and asking if there's anything additional you could do to make Her life more comfortable, such as looking after Her and and Her friend one evening?

W/we don't have others in O/our world at present although there have been times when, very selfishly i should add, i'd hoped Mistress had confided in certain persons.

Iowabev said...

Thank you suzy for your response. I really appreciate the great suggestions. Communication is always a good thing. I just want to make sure that I don't "over talk it".
By the way, I love the little picture on your profile. Cute!
Bev

little shaun said...

Different things work with different couples. my suggestion is to space out the talk about furthering the lifestyle so that you're not seemingly pushing it on Her. perhaps once every few weeks. But yes, i think it is good to ease Her into some way of progressing this. If cuckolding is your thing, i like the idea of having Darryl or another of your friends over more often to further humble you.

As far as my own situation, my Wife has told one other female friend about it, and She also knows that She has the right to see other men although that hasn't happened yet. These are things that further the lifestyle in my opinion.

Iowabev said...

Thanks Shaun. Please feel free to ad my blog link to your site as I am doing with yours. Keep up the great writing.
Bev