I am in a dilemma and hope someone can help me. Though I have been taking care of the household for the past three years, I don’t know what I should be doing to make this lifestyle more enjoyable for my wife. She is free from the burden of cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, picking up dry cleaning, grocery shopping, and even yard work and car care. I know that she appreciates what I do and knows why I do it – because I love being a housewife. However, I want to do more for her, to really show her how much I love her and love being her wife.
I have read on similar sites that one of the pitfalls of this lifestyle is someone like me wanting to flaunt this in front of the spouse’s face constantly because we are so engrossed in it. I don’t want this to be something she dreads because I talk about it too much. But it is constantly on my mind because I am constantly living it. She isn’t living it because she leaves the house for her work everyday. She only has to face the lifestyle when she returns home for those few hours each evening. After supper is done and cleaned up, we spend the evening hours as a normal married couple; watching TV, reading, spending time on the computer, and having mundane conversations about family, politics, or weather.
Of course I want to talk about my little world and still be the homemaker even while just sitting on the sofa. I want her to see me still in my housewife role. She isn’t a dominating person so I don’t envision her ordering me around. So what can I do to continue this without fear of alienating her?
I enjoy my life and want to continue and expand it. At times I see signs that she might be willing to expand this to include others like when we had dinner with Darryl. And I know she talks to Anna about it. Maybe I should have her invite Anna over for dinner. I could leave it up to her as to how much we show Anna – if I just cook and serve or if I do it in full
This is where I need your help and input. What do you suggest? What has worked for you or failed? Do you let other people into your world or just keep it between the two of you?
Let me hear from you.