It is interesting how sometimes the simplest acts of kindness can take on so much hidden meaning. Last night Linda asked me to give her a foot rub. This is not something we do often, in fact I can’t remember the last time I did that for her. And she asked me very nicely if I would do it; she didn’t instruct me or order me to do it. And so I was very happy to oblige her this small task.
She stretched out on the couch and I sat on the floor by her feet. I spend a long time massaging them. I could tell that she enjoyed my efforts. In this case, there was nothing submissive about me taking care of her needs, nothing dominating in the way she asked me to do it. At the same time, I think the outcome would have been the same. Of course, I would have done it if ‘ordered’ and she would have enjoyed it. But we were able to just enjoy each other and the moment without having to think about it in terms of ‘roles’. We were just a couple enjoying each other’s company.
I don’t know if this makes much sense, or is very interesting. It’s just that sometimes I get so wrapped up in the roles we are suppose to play; dominate, submissive, feminine, sissy… that I forget just to enjoy the relationship. Last night reminded why we are together as a couple… because we enjoy spending time together, and it doesn’t matter what we are doing or why we are doing it. It just felt good.