“Why, that’s one of the nicest things you have ever said to me!” That was my reply to Linda last night when she told me that I looked so domesticated. At the time I was darning an oven mitt that had a hole in it. I was sitting on the sofa doing some hand sewing; the oven mitt, replacing a button on her blouse, and tightening the button holes on a pajama top so it won’t come unbuttoned when I slept in it.
I was wearing a white blouse and black harem pants along with hose and black pumps. I must admit, I looked like little Suzy homemaker, sitting there so cute with my needle and thread. That, on top of the fact that when she got home tonight, I was in the kitchen in my apron cooking spaghetti dinner. I was really driving home my housewife role, and we were both enjoying it.
I have been reading on several blogs the difficulty many couples have about defining roles and also the husband wanting the wife to take a more active part in the relationship; primarily that of being more dominant. My wife has trouble with that as well. She appreciates the effort I am putting into this with my doing all of the housework and chores. She just can’t bring herself to order me around. Plus she still occasionally wants to help out around the house. She stills picks up dishes after dinner. However, then there are times that she only does the bare minimum. Like when there is clean laundry in a basket that hasn’t been sorted yet, and she takes just her clothes out and leaves the rest for me to take care of.
I do wish that she would give me orders or leave me instructions. I wish she would discipline me when I do something wrong or not to her liking. A spanking to straighten me out would be great. Withholding sex or publicly humiliating me would be a wonderful learning experience. However, I know that she wouldn’t think of that on her own, nor would it be something that would come easily to her. She is not the bossy type naturally.
So I guess I am trying to say that we can wish for many things in a relationship, but reality has the upper hand. I should be asking her if she is getting what she wants out of this lifestyle experiment or what I could be doing to make it better for mer.
Of course that doesn’t mean we should stop trying to make this fun.